I am trying to gain some understanding. Nearly three years ago, I met a man named Earl, through a mutual friend. Later on, my friend told me that Earl had become very infatuated with me. Now, I will be honest, I thought he had a handsome face and really pretty eyes(which actually have a slightly negative canthal tilt), but he's only 5'3... And I am 5'7.. He is also two years younger, we met he was 23 and I was 25. But, sure enough, he soon added me to Facebook and asked for my number and I gave it to him. But, I was expecting that he would end up making sexual comments and start asking me for pics, like every other guy that messaged me. I had been voluntarily celibate for almost 6 years, because I felt like every man that talked to me just wanted to use me for sex. But with Earl, he never went beyond compliments. He actually talked to me like I was a person. We talked about everything and actually had a lot in common. Still, he was short..It actually took a lot of contemplating for me, but when he finally asked me out I said yes. Not too long later he lost his virginity to me. Although, I didn't know he was a virgin at the time. Because it was honestly the best sex I ever had, and he is the only man that's ever given me an orgasm. I had assumed he lost his virginity to his high school girlfriend.. but he finally told me he didn't, she had told him that she didn't like sex, and then ended up cheating on him with his brothers, both of them. It turned out his ex had just used him because she had a crush on his brothers and wanted to get close to them. This explained a lot about him. He gets very jealous, he assumes that I am eventually going to leave him for just about every other guy, and he gets extremely upset when his brothers are around when I am with him. His brothers are a lot taller than him ( He was born with scoliosis and other physical abnormalities that stunted his growth) but, he is way better looking than either of them. But I can't get him to understand this. I'm in love with him and it hurts me when we are all happy and then he sees a guy he deems more attractive than him, and his face falls. He gets upset and assumes I will want them. I figure you guys will understand his way of thinking the best. Many of you want to find a woman who loves you, but if you do you think it will ever make you feel different about women? I really love this man. We have an 18 month old baby girl together. But he still feels like he's unloveable. As incels, what would it take for you to honestly feel loved?