kKkThat’s why I keep saying don’t cold approach. The chance of rejection goes up because you don’t know if they are even single or maybe they are a lesbian. You never know. The key is finding females in a social circle or a group, program, club, or through friends of friends.kaumak said:Well, I was at the gym and I was checking out this cute girl a couple machines in front of me, she was on the eliptical. She kept looking back at me, i thought she was interested so I went up and asked her out. She looked at me for a sec and said "ummm, I'm seeing someone" and walked away. I made a Tinder account and I've been through everyone and got no matches. I've seen some of the same people 5+ times. I've been through the whole pool. I'm moving soon thankfully, even though that won't help.
I've been cold approaching lately because the "befriending first and see what happens from there" never works. Every woman I've ever befriended never wanted to be more than that. I've always been the best friend. I've always been like a brother. The advice I was given from many people was to be more upfront and honest with what I want. Now people are telling me the opposite. Nothing works. I'm hopeless.
No, they're quite wrong. For a real relationship to last, friendship is a huge part of it, from start to finish. I've just come onto this site and can identify a lot of pain at what is perceived as rejection, which in turn can turn to anger if it happens often enough. So many people - men and women, boys and girls - are hooked on the idea of looks being the be-all and end-all. For some people that is true. Who however wants to spend their entire life with a physically attractive person if they lack in personality, kindness and generosity of spirit? I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone. Please don't be put off by an insensitive put-down or refusal - you don't know the state of mind of that person, perhaps they've just extricated themselves from a toxic relationship and are scared to commit themselves. Don't let yourself feel hatred, you are better than that. Be true to yourself, don't try too hard (too full-on/pushy) and it will happen. I write as an older female, a mum of boys, who knows that some girls can be thoughtless and mean. Some, but by no means all