how do you get over the trauma

[lordoftheincels]

Some days I will be in a good mood. Then an image (not even sexual) will loosely vaguely look like a woman. Then I feel like a womanizer and the trauma begins. What happens is that I remember a past scenario. Where a woman casually flirted, but not strongly. And I was feeling shy and low self-worth. Afraid to ask for her number because red pillers say do not come off too strong. Also afraid because of feminism...what if I misinterpreted her signals and she was not really flirting with me. And so I stand there, paralyzed like a statue unable to ask for number. And never see her again. Then keep thinking about all the hot sex I may have missed out on.

Basically this loops and turns into a trauma. And makes me browse for porn images of the closest female that looks like her. And then I stare at the photo to get numb and asexual. Yet the pain never goes away. Does this ever happen to any of you.

Also another reason I never asked for her number because I got girls numbers before. The next day they lose interest and it feels horrible. So I just gave up. But what if this girl was different. I keep beating myself up over it and can never get peace of mind.

 

[ortharzeal]

I just know that they are straighforward to extremes when they actually like a guy and ambiguous "signals" are a trickery and/or an invite to her orbiters' club.

 

[Nostalgicel]

I have a very old sextape that I occasionally watch, troublesome story tough.

 

[bcroger2]

About 2 years ago I had a few opportunities to get with girls. In 2018, pretty much no one(who never looked like some vile creature who resided in the pits of hell ) was interested in me. One 3.5/10 Asian chick was interested in me and so was one .04/10 Hispanic, whale pig, but obviously I couldn't get my self to go out with either. I thought about going with the 3.5/10 Asian chick, but I decided that it was not worth it. Imagine if she wanted to break up. She was also a desperate creep who made references to children and marriage. Of course, my sister also thinks that I look handsome and I could tell that she often wonder why I am still single. I think she is beginning to suspect that I am gay. She has no idea that I have asked and flirted with out multiple women but they all declined my romantic inventions. Of course, my sister is also quite unattractive. She is a female incel, so her opinion is not really relevant.

There were no explicit opportunities with normal looking females over the past 4 years, its not like they asked me for a coffee or anything, but some women did seem somewhat interested in me in 2017. At least they would talk to me. I should of tried asking some of them out. Last girl I asked out, she said no, but some of the other ones seemed like a better bet.

Back in H.S and middle school, I actually got lots of girls. Even very attractive 8,9/10 would show interest in me. Its a shame that I don't even get 1% of the attention that I used to get as a child in grade school. I even got more attention from females in elementary school than I did in college. At least back in elementary school, girls would have "crushes" on me and things like that. Now they don't give a fuck. And no, I never gained any weight.

 

[ortharzeal]

About 2 years ago I had a few opportunities to get with girls. In 2018, pretty much no one(who never looked like some vile creature who resided in the pits of hell ) was interested in me. One 3.5/10 Asian chick was interested in me and so was one .04/10 Hispanic, whale pig, but obviously I couldn't get my self to go out with either. I thought about going with the 3.5/10 Asian chick, but I decided that it was not worth it. Imagine if she wanted to break up. She was also a desperate creep who made references to children and marriage. Of course, my sister also thinks that I look handsome and I could tell that she often wonder why I am still single. I think she is beginning to suspect that I am gay. She has no idea that I have asked and flirted with out multiple women but they all declined my romantic inventions. Of course, my sister is also quite unattractive. She is a female incel, so her opinion is not really relevant.

There were no explicit opportunities with normal looking females over the past 4 years, its not like they asked me for a coffee or anything, but some women did seem somewhat interested in me in 2017. At least they would talk to me. I should of tried asking some of them out. Last girl I asked out, she said no, but some of the other ones seemed like a better bet.

Back in H.S and middle school, I actually got lots of girls. Even very attractive 8,9/10 would show interest in me. Its a shame that I don't even get 1% of the attention that I used to get as a child in grade school. I even got more attention from females in elementary school than I did in college. At least back in elementary school, girls would have "crushes" on me and things like that. Now they don't give a fuck. And no, I never gained any weight.

What do you mean by 3.5/10? Any example? Also humble brag is humble.

 

[bcroger2]

About 2 years ago I had a few opportunities to get with girls. In 2018, pretty much no one(who never looked like some vile creature who resided in the pits of hell ) was interested in me. One 3.5/10 Asian chick was interested in me and so was one .04/10 Hispanic, whale pig, but obviously I couldn't get my self to go out with either. I thought about going with the 3.5/10 Asian chick, but I decided that it was not worth it. Imagine if she wanted to break up. She was also a desperate creep who made references to children and marriage. Of course, my sister also thinks that I look handsome and I could tell that she often wonder why I am still single. I think she is beginning to suspect that I am gay. She has no idea that I have asked and flirted with out multiple women but they all declined my romantic inventions. Of course, my sister is also quite unattractive. She is a female incel, so her opinion is not really relevant.

There were no explicit opportunities with normal looking females over the past 4 years, its not like they asked me for a coffee or anything, but some women did seem somewhat interested in me in 2017. At least they would talk to me. I should of tried asking some of them out. Last girl I asked out, she said no, but some of the other ones seemed like a better bet.

Back in H.S and middle school, I actually got lots of girls. Even very attractive 8,9/10 would show interest in me. Its a shame that I don't even get 1% of the attention that I used to get as a child in grade school. I even got more attention from females in elementary school than I did in college. At least back in elementary school, girls would have "crushes" on me and things like that. Now they don't give a fuck. And no, I never gained any weight.

What do you mean by 3.5/10? Any example? Also humble brag is humble.

Huge nose, acne, smells bad, orange skin, glasses, accent, died blonde hair, desperate etc.

Trust me, I don't get chicks at all anymore . That girl was an exception and if you saw her you would not tell me that I am "bragging" at all. Same with that obese whale.

Sorry if I come across like I am bragging. I am just telling my story as OP told his with the girl at the bar. I never intended it to be that way.

 

[lordoftheincels]

I just know that they are straighforward to extremes when they actually like a guy and ambiguous "signals" are a trickery and/or an invite to her orbiters' club.

God i hope so. This post may have saved me from the rope. Nothing worse than self blame. With this, I no longer have to torment myself about the shoulda-woulda-coulda thing. Except now i think about other girls of my past I did have a chance with. And now stuck as incel, I guess no rest for the weary. The thoughts i could have escaped incel and failed, is worse than the thoughts of being incel.

Back in H.S and middle school, I actually got lots of girls. Even very attractive 8,9/10 would show interest in me. Its a shame that I don't even get 1% of the attention that I used to get as a child in grade school. I even got more attention from females in elementary school than I did in college. At least back in elementary school, girls would have "crushes" on me and things like that. Now they don't give a fuck. And no, I never gained any weight.

Same as me. But after highschool I lost my pikachu charms evolved into a raichu. Got higher T features and women lost interest in me. But Chad is high T apparently so maybe its a case of go big or go home. Either you must have 99T or 1T or you lose. No middle option.

Also never got laid, due to my shyness and feminist/christian brainwashing telling me premarital sex is a sin. I constantly torment myself over what a failure i was. No rest for the weary I guess.

 

[ortharzeal]

God i hope so. This post may have saved me from the rope. Nothing worse than self blame. With this, I no longer have to torment myself about the shoulda-woulda-coulda thing.

I believe this "men do the first step" meme was introduced when morality was a thing to further prevent females from whoring around and drooling over Chad. Like, face it, it's not dignified for a decent woman to approach, they'll think you're a whore, will never marry you, and you'll die in shame and loneliness as a cat-lady.

Now, when slut-shaming is gone, females and their SJW butlers use the "first step" thing as an "explanation" to sub-Chad having to almost literally lick female boots. Then those SJWs' shepherdesses grab their Chad BFs and indulge in their desires, forgetting their conscientious human being status, independence, alleged dignity etc.

Approaching is sort of scam in 2019. Anyway I still believe than everyone should give at a go before claiming he's incel. Not being approached just means you are sub-Chad. Ridiculous and impudent to claim inceldom because of not being approached.

 

[lordoftheincels]

God i hope so. This post may have saved me from the rope. Nothing worse than self blame. With this, I no longer have to torment myself about the shoulda-woulda-coulda thing.

I believe this "men do the first step" meme was introduced when morality was a thing to further prevent females from whoring around and drooling over Chad. Like, face it, it's not dignified for a decent woman to approach, they'll think you're a whore, will never marry you, and you'll die in shame and loneliness as a cat-lady.

Now, when slut-shaming is gone, females and their SJW butlers use the "first step" thing as an "explanation" to sub-Chad having to almost literally lick female boots. Then those SJWs' shepherdesses grab their Chad BFs and indulge in their desires, forgetting their conscientious human being status, independence, alleged dignity etc.

Approaching is sort of scam in 2019. Anyway I still believe than everyone should give at a go before claiming he's incel. Not being approached just means you are sub-Chad. Ridiculous and impudent to claim inceldom because of not being approached.

Seems like true news imo.

 

[bcroger2]

Approaching is sort of scam in 2019. Anyway I still believe than everyone should give at a go before claiming he's incel. Not being approached just means you are sub-Chad. Ridiculous and impudent to claim inceldom because of not being approached.

I've approached and asked out a few girls, but approaching too much seems unprofessional and awkward . That's why I don't do it too often.

 

[ortharzeal]

I've approached and asked out a few girls, but approaching too much seems unprofessional and awkward . That's why I don't do it too often.

Never began for quotecels.

 

[albie]

You don't get over the trauma of being ugly and alone because it is on going. It may be that you haven't been called a name in years. But one is coming up just around the corner.