Anyone else finds themselves completely changing their personality out of desperation?

bcroger2

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I am a 24-year-old F.A I used to be shy and if someone was not interested I usually just let them be. I used to let people (specifically women) contact me first. Then I went to college. Years went by and I realized that being submissive did nothing for me. The last year of college I decided to become assertive with women.

In short I changed my personality and it did nothing. I tried talking to girls who never showed much interest and they ended up not talking back even though I kept trying. This one girl who I studied with for an hour and seemed to like me, stopped showing any signs of interest in me, and according to her F.B already had a B.F. My friend tried to help me out and invited us to go to a bar together (all 3 of us) and she said no. I tried to talk to her following the days of studying and she never responded well at all. I got so desperate towards the end of college that I asked out for coffee and she finally said no as well. I could not imagine doing this just a few years ago. My desperation has changed my personality.

Anyone else finds themselves changing their personality out of desperation? Thoughts?
 

lordoftheincels

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bcroger2 said:
I am a 24-year-old F.A I used to be shy and if someone was not interested I usually just let them be. I used to let people (specifically women) contact me first. Then I went to college. Years went by and I realized that being submissive did nothing for me. The last year of college I decided to become assertive with women.

In short I changed my personality and it did nothing. I tried talking to girls who never showed much interest and they ended up not talking back even though I kept trying. This one girl who I studied with for an hour and seemed to like me, stopped showing any signs of interest in me, and according to her F.B already had a B.F. My friend tried to help me out and invited us to go to a bar together (all 3 of us) and she said no. I tried to talk to her following the days of studying and she never responded well at all. I got so desperate towards the end of college that I asked out for coffee and she finally said no as well. I could not imagine doing this just a few years ago. My desperation has changed my personality.

Anyone else finds themselves changing their personality out of desperation? Thoughts?
Yep your story is the same as me. At 25 I got sick of being incel so I decided to be more assertive, it didn't do much good although at least finally some women actually starting paying attention to me instead of just viewing me as invisible and a nobody.
 

lordoftheincels

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bcroger2 said:
As a male, we have no rights, the entire world is against us, women don't care about us...the only males with male privileged are chads...and even they are beginning to slip into the same boat.
 

bcroger2

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lordoftheincels said:
bcroger2 said:
As a male, we have no rights, the entire world is against us, women don't care about us...the only males with male privileged are chads...and even they are beginning to slip into the same boat.
I used to be a "chad"

In 8-9th grade- I used to get girls very easy. 8/9/9.25s would ask me out on a daily basis. I was also socially awkward to the point of not being able to talk to some people. I would fail my classes, have major issues with teachers and would laugh at inappropriate things. Complete weirdo who would make up stories of how I got blowjobs with older girls. Girls still loved me and asked me if I liked them. I would get hit on almost every day by very attractive girls. All the guys got jealous of me so they bullied me, which made me look worse. Sloots did not care and still hit on me.

10-12th grade-Still got girls easy. Was still a weirdo and below average average student. Had some trouble with teachers(such as not turning work in) . NOT as bad as middle school tho. Girls still liked me and I went out with many of them. Hot,blonde counselor asked me to study and hangout with her and she knew about my poor grades.

College- Talk quite a bit. Significantly more articulate than before. Approach girls (never did that or had to do that in middle and H.S) VERY career oriented, business and Engineering major, respectful, quite knowledgeable about current events and politics; 3.2+ GPA, very knowledgeable about education and know about almost all career fields and can make great conversations about most things. HOWEVER, I mostly stay in business school which is Chad and Stacy central and I believe my looks may of declined since grade school. =Sloots don't care now.


What I learned is that almost all that matters is looks and how good you look compared to those around you(maybe I looked good compared to other middle schoolers, but not college business students for example.) Most excuses women give just mean you don't look good enough or they are taken.(unless you live in poverty or are a multimillionaire or are a criminal)
 

lordoftheincels

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bcroger2 said:
lordoftheincels said:
bcroger2 said:
As a male, we have no rights, the entire world is against us, women don't care about us...the only males with male privileged are chads...and even they are beginning to slip into the same boat.
I used to be a "chad"

In 8-9th grade- I used to get girls very easy. 8/9/9.25s would ask me out on a daily basis. I was also socially awkward to the point of not being able to talk to some people. I would fail my classes, have major issues with teachers and would laugh at inappropriate things. Complete weirdo who would make up stories of how I got blowjobs with older girls. Girls still loved me and asked me if I liked them. I would get hit on almost every day by very attractive girls. All the guys got jealous of me so they bullied me, which made me look worse. Sloots did not care and still hit on me.

10-12th grade-Still got girls easy. Was still a weirdo and below average average student. Had some trouble with teachers(such as not turning work in) . NOT as bad as middle school tho. Girls still liked me and I went out with many of them. Hot,blonde counselor asked me to study and hangout with her and she knew about my poor grades.

College- Talk quite a bit. Significantly more articulate than before. Approach girls (never did that or had to do that in middle and H.S) VERY career oriented, business and Engineering major, respectful, quite knowledgeable about current events and politics; 3.2+ GPA, very knowledgeable about education and know about almost all career fields and can make great conversations about most things. HOWEVER, I mostly stay in business school which is Chad and Stacy central and I believe my looks may of declined since grade school. =Sloots don't care now.


What I learned is that almost all that matters is looks and how good you look compared to those around you(maybe I looked good compared to other middle schoolers, but not college business students for example.) Most excuses women give just mean you don't look good enough or they are taken.(unless you live in poverty or are a multimillionaire or are a criminal)
Yes I was the same way too. I wasn't a "chad" because I was super feminine and beta. I was more of a lucky007, in highschool and middleschool girls used to hit on me all the time, but I was so shy and beta I felt scared and afraid. I wish I could go back in time and get laid, sometimes the thoughts loop of how I almost made it out of incel, had I just been more confident I could have turned out to be a happy person and escaped from hell. Some times it feels like its 40 year old virgin where i get so close to getting laid, but the universe intervenes and ruins the whole situation. Sometimes I wonder if I was sent to this planet for a reason, like I'm not allowed to be happy and I'm like the messiah of males, to fix this god-forsaken world, like how can I be happy when so many males are oppressed by this terrible world. Because I got so close to getting laid, like in 40 year old virgin, yet it almost feels like some occult force is sabotaging it and making it not happen. As I've grown older I lost my looks and feminine charm, due to the hatred and bitterness I've had to endure from pornographic fantasies being utterly and rudely ruined by a brutal and hellish reality. Some days I can't decide whether I would rather save the world or just watch it burn.
 

bcroger2

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lordoftheincels said:
bcroger2 said:
lordoftheincels said:
As a male, we have no rights, the entire world is against us, women don't care about us...the only males with male privileged are chads...and even they are beginning to slip into the same boat.
I used to be a "chad"

In 8-9th grade- I used to get girls very easy. 8/9/9.25s would ask me out on a daily basis. I was also socially awkward to the point of not being able to talk to some people. I would fail my classes, have major issues with teachers and would laugh at inappropriate things. Complete weirdo who would make up stories of how I got blowjobs with older girls. Girls still loved me and asked me if I liked them. I would get hit on almost every day by very attractive girls. All the guys got jealous of me so they bullied me, which made me look worse. Sloots did not care and still hit on me.

10-12th grade-Still got girls easy. Was still a weirdo and below average average student. Had some trouble with teachers(such as not turning work in) . NOT as bad as middle school tho. Girls still liked me and I went out with many of them. Hot,blonde counselor asked me to study and hangout with her and she knew about my poor grades.

College- Talk quite a bit. Significantly more articulate than before. Approach girls (never did that or had to do that in middle and H.S) VERY career oriented, business and Engineering major, respectful, quite knowledgeable about current events and politics; 3.2+ GPA, very knowledgeable about education and know about almost all career fields and can make great conversations about most things. HOWEVER, I mostly stay in business school which is Chad and Stacy central and I believe my looks may of declined since grade school. =Sloots don't care now.


What I learned is that almost all that matters is looks and how good you look compared to those around you(maybe I looked good compared to other middle schoolers, but not college business students for example.) Most excuses women give just mean you don't look good enough or they are taken.(unless you live in poverty or are a multimillionaire or are a criminal)
Yes I was the same way too. I wasn't a "chad" because I was super feminine and beta. I was more of a lucky007, in highschool and middleschool girls used to hit on me all the time, but I was so shy and beta I felt scared and afraid. I wish I could go back in time and get laid, sometimes the thoughts loop of how I almost made it out of incel, had I just been more confident I could have turned out to be a happy person and escaped from hell. Some times it feels like its 40 year old virgin where i get so close to getting laid, but the universe intervenes and ruins the whole situation. Sometimes I wonder if I was sent to this planet for a reason, like I'm not allowed to be happy and I'm like the messiah of males, to fix this god-forsaken world, like how can I be happy when so many males are oppressed by this terrible world. Because I got so close to getting laid, like in 40 year old virgin, yet it almost feels like some occult force is sabotaging it and making it not happen. As I've grown older I lost my looks and feminine charm, due to the hatred and bitterness I've had to endure from pornographic fantasies being utterly and rudely ruined by a brutal and hellish reality. Some days I can't decide whether I would rather save the world or just watch it burn.
WOW. You sound a lot like me. I used to get lots of girls until the 12th grade, but I guess the competition got too much in college. Pretty much everyone has B.Fs now and most boys improved their appearance as they turned into men while I guess my appearance must of been stagnant or got worse.

good luck to both of us.
 

lordoftheincels

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bcroger2 said:
lordoftheincels said:
bcroger2 said:
I used to be a "chad"

In 8-9th grade- I used to get girls very easy. 8/9/9.25s would ask me out on a daily basis. I was also socially awkward to the point of not being able to talk to some people. I would fail my classes, have major issues with teachers and would laugh at inappropriate things. Complete weirdo who would make up stories of how I got blowjobs with older girls. Girls still loved me and asked me if I liked them. I would get hit on almost every day by very attractive girls. All the guys got jealous of me so they bullied me, which made me look worse. Sloots did not care and still hit on me.

10-12th grade-Still got girls easy. Was still a weirdo and below average average student. Had some trouble with teachers(such as not turning work in) . NOT as bad as middle school tho. Girls still liked me and I went out with many of them. Hot,blonde counselor asked me to study and hangout with her and she knew about my poor grades.

College- Talk quite a bit. Significantly more articulate than before. Approach girls (never did that or had to do that in middle and H.S) VERY career oriented, business and Engineering major, respectful, quite knowledgeable about current events and politics; 3.2+ GPA, very knowledgeable about education and know about almost all career fields and can make great conversations about most things. HOWEVER, I mostly stay in business school which is Chad and Stacy central and I believe my looks may of declined since grade school. =Sloots don't care now.


What I learned is that almost all that matters is looks and how good you look compared to those around you(maybe I looked good compared to other middle schoolers, but not college business students for example.) Most excuses women give just mean you don't look good enough or they are taken.(unless you live in poverty or are a multimillionaire or are a criminal)
Yes I was the same way too. I wasn't a "chad" because I was super feminine and beta. I was more of a lucky007, in highschool and middleschool girls used to hit on me all the time, but I was so shy and beta I felt scared and afraid. I wish I could go back in time and get laid, sometimes the thoughts loop of how I almost made it out of incel, had I just been more confident I could have turned out to be a happy person and escaped from hell. Some times it feels like its 40 year old virgin where i get so close to getting laid, but the universe intervenes and ruins the whole situation. Sometimes I wonder if I was sent to this planet for a reason, like I'm not allowed to be happy and I'm like the messiah of males, to fix this god-forsaken world, like how can I be happy when so many males are oppressed by this terrible world. Because I got so close to getting laid, like in 40 year old virgin, yet it almost feels like some occult force is sabotaging it and making it not happen. As I've grown older I lost my looks and feminine charm, due to the hatred and bitterness I've had to endure from pornographic fantasies being utterly and rudely ruined by a brutal and hellish reality. Some days I can't decide whether I would rather save the world or just watch it burn.
WOW. You sound a lot like me. I used to get lots of girls until the 12th grade, but I guess the competition got too much in college. Pretty much everyone has B.Fs now and most boys improved their appearance as they turned into men while I guess my appearance must of been stagnant or got worse.

good luck to both of us.
Yep my experience is about the same. Only difference is, even though girls flirted with me in high school, I was too shy to make a move. Now I have this endless psychological trauma of not knowing what its like to get laid. I just want one prostitute so I can see what its like, but the evil government makes it illegal. Its the same trauma as bitcoin trauma, I have a friend who knew about bitcoin many, many years ago, and sold it all, now they have nothing, its the trauma of almost obtaining heaven yet missing out and being cast to hell.
 
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